The Perfect Wife

Can I just say that I work with some amazing people? I love coming to work mainly for my coworkers. At both malls, I consider these people to be my friends above anything else. But lately I have been thinking about how lucky I am to have two especially wise ladies that I can count on to keep my head clear and my mind focused on the bigger pictures of life. Kelly is sooooo smart! One of the things I like best about her is her ability to look past the actions and see the intent of any given situation (especially of husbands, its her gift ;). Trust me when I say there have been a lot of times when I have been grumbling about people when she makes me see that said persons heart has been in the right place. For example, I once told her how frustrated I am because I will try to do nice little things for Chase, like buy him something special at the grocery store or run an errand for him, but he never seems to reciprocate without being asked. And she pointed out that if I was only doing it to receive something in return then I wasn’t doing these things for the right reasons and that when you give a gift, you really shouldn’t expect anything in return or it’s not really a gift. Like I said, I love her because she is so smart! She has listened to me so long some days that most people would probably have told me to take a hike. But she never does. She lets me vent and then points out the most insightful things that really add value to my life. And I also have Sherri. Let me tell you, Sherri has sent me home in tears more than once. Not because she has been mean or anything but because she makes me think about hard things. Just last week, she told me that the biggest obstacle for her in getting over her husbands passing is looking back and seeing little things that she would have changed and situations she would have reacted differently in. And now she is working on fixing them moving forward in her current relationships but what she really wants to do is go back and correct them for him, which isn’t possible. This of course got me thinking about things I would want to do differently. And it’s not too late for me, so I shouldn’t wait. I seriously woke up at 2 am bawling because I was remembering times where I have been a little too demanding and EXTREMELY unforgiving and I don’t want to wake up here on earth one day without Chase and have to remember these things. I keep telling Sherri that she is my therapist and it’s her job to teach me her life lessons. I’m sure she enjoys the job (insert sarcasm here). But she has always been very open and that is one of things I appreciate the most about her. Now don’t you all see how lucky I am? If someone could combine these two ladies in my head, Chase would have the perfect wife.

The Media Does This To Me!

I think I have the swine flu.

My body aches, my throat hurts and I can barely move. I'm half tempted to run to the doctor so that he can make me feel better. But the sad thing is that I probably don't have the swine flu and I'm just becoming worked up because everywhere I turn I'm hearing horror stories. I swear that the media makes my life more difficult! My doctor actually recommended to me that I pull back a little bit from different news outlets because they STRESS me out! Hearing about this pandemic 24/7 makes every symptom seem life or death.

I think I just need a nap.

I Hate Alltel

I have been stuck in Alltel hell for approximately two months now. It's actually gotten to the point where I have lost sleep. It's a very complicated story but I feel like it might alleviate some of my bah humbugs to get it off my chest. WAY BACK in October, I lost my cell phone. It was my own fault and I took responsibility for the situation. My husband lovingly went to Alltel for me and got me a new phone. Please keep in mind that prior to this incident, I had had the same Blackberry for two years. In fact, the person that helped Chase get me a new phone called my old phone a ghetto fabulous dinosaur. But I liked the phone and it still worked, so why get a new one? Chase brought me home a new phone. Two days later, it stopped charging and the Alltel employee that helped me told me the portal was shot. They gave me another phone and this phone worked for maybe one month before the portal became broken again. So to keep up, I picked up my third new phone in one month. Two weeks later, it stopped receiving incoming calls. Every call went straight to my voicemail. Once again, I went to the Alltel corporate store (on 17th just in case anyone out there cares). Let me be clear in saying that every time you go in there, you have to put your name on the list and wait for over an hour. So I went to pick up my 4th Alltel phone, waited for over an hour and was then told that I had to call the Tech desk first. Meanwhile, my two year old is running around like a demon. She can be very good but she was losing her patience very quickly. Especially because I was on the phone and unable to distract her. Finally, they determine that (imagine this) the phone is defunct. So they give me a new one after 2 1/2 hours. I go home, like instructed, turn the stupid thing off and start to charge it. I wake up in the morning and, you guessed it, the portal was busted and not working. I once again go back to Alltel on a Saturday. They tell me that all their Blackberry phones are gone and all the loner phones are checked out. So I leave without a cellphone. They tell me that they will have a phone overnighted on Monday and it will be in on Tuesday. And I'm expected to go without a phone this entire time. WHATEVER. I go back on Wednesday to pick up my phone because I didn't have the heart to go in on Tuesday. I arrive at 6:30. At 8:15 they tell me that my phone hasn't arrived yet and there is nothing I can do or that they are willing to do for me. At this point, I have had enough. I got up this morning and called customer service. Guess what they did for me? They have me a $10 dollar credit. ARE YOU KIDDING ME? And I still don't have a phone. So I looked up the head of marketing for Alltel and I sent him an email. I will keep you posted but not via phone OBVIOUSLY! This entire time, I feel like they think I'm doing this on purpose. I had the same phone for TWO YEARS without any problems. I am not hard on cell phones. I love my cell phone. I take good care of it. Every time I go in to the corporate Alltel store, I am nice and kind and do my best to realize that these people are not behind my problems. Maybe if I start being beyotchy, they will do something. This is a society that rewards bad behavior, right?

A Symbol of Freedom

Well, no matter the outcome, the 2008 election season is over. Thank goodness! I don't think that I could have taken another day, especially because this one has been going on for over a year. Earlier this year, when I went and saw the movie Swing Vote (by myself because Chase hates spending time with me) something really stuck out for me. There was a line in the movie about how those of us that don't work for the government or serve in the military are really asked to do very little for all the freedoms that we enjoy. All our country asks from us is to spend a few hours every four years voting. If you can't sacrifice that, then what can you sacrifice? So yesterday I decided to teach my six year old nephew about the democratic process and I took him to vote with me. On the way over we discussed how important it was to vote because there are people are there that are giving their lives for our right to such liberties and people in different countries aren't even allowed to pick their leaders. He was so cute and innocent througout the whole process. He asked the lady checking people in if she had voted yet. When she told him she had, she asked him who he was voting for and he told her aunt Katie. On the way out, he asked when he could vote and I told him when he was a grown up. And he replied, "So you mean when I turn 7?" After I got home last night, I played with the kids and went to bed. Just getting out there and voting took a huge weight off my shoulders and I didn't feel the need to keep myself up all night watching the TV because as that point I had done all I could do. The only thing left is to make my husband feel guilty for not voting. But I'm not going to work too hard at this because I have a feeling that we would have cancelled each other out and this way I still get to feel like I won.

Tori & Katie: Inn Love/Hate

Somewhere along the line, I have become addicted to Tori Spelling. This is not a proud moment for me. I have hesitated to identify myself as a TSpell fan because it really goes against everything I stand for in this crazy mixed up world. But none the less, I have had a lot of extra time on my hands at night so I have been watching her reality show plus rewatching all 10 (that’s right, all 10) seasons of Beverly Hills, 90210, the wonderful saga of ordinary 30 year olds living extraordinary high school lives. It’s great and I love it. But I have a few thoughts regarding her book:

• Tori’s mother is psycho. The only thing she gives in this planet are things that she can remain in control of. When you are performing this song and dance to the tune of $500 million dollars, it makes you can across as very shallow as it has in this case. It makes me appreciate my own mom even more! I’m so glad that I don’t have to call her assistant in order to schedule a call with my mom. I would think that most mothers would be able to drop most things for a quick chat with their kids.
  
• Tori is very unforgiving of her mother. There were a few passages in the book that I wanted to highlight and send back to her. Being that it was a book on loan from a friend, I refrained. (Thanks Kelly and LeAnna! I really did love the book and I promise that it will be returned in the same condition as I got it). Tori, of course your parents weren’t overjoyed at the news of your latest engagement. They went through the same charade less than 2 years earlier. Get a grip! And there were moments that even in your remembrance of the story the audience could tell that your mom was trying and you weren’t letting her.
  
• Tori complains a lot about her elaborate childhood under the guise of writing a memoir. I’m sorry that you got a Madame Alexander doll every year for Christmas, but unless this was your only gift, I’m still not getting the issue. It must weighing heavy on your mind because you brought it up in nearly every single chapter of your book.
  
• Nothing that I read in the entire book justified what they did to Dean’s son. Do whatever you want to other adults that can defend and take care of themselves, but your main job should be to protect your kids.

These were a few of thoughts that I had while reading the book. Overall, I found it very enjoyable and I LOVED the behind the scenes details of 90210. I’m even more in love with Luke Perry than before! Too bad he’s old enough to be my dad and I’m already married. But I still love Tori Spelling!